Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in every respect; and, in particular, sex within marriage is pure. But God will indeed punish fornicators and adulterers.
Day 28: INTIMACY
Today’s dare Nina Roesner talks about creating intimacy with our husbands. Nina Roesner says: “ God created sexual intimacy for a number of reason, including our enjoyment and to help us create a unique closeness that cannot be experienced in any other way.”
“Intimacy can be, however, a challenging area for many wives.” “God’s plan for our physical relationship with our spouse can be something that is tremendously comforting and depends on our connection with each other.”
This subject is a hard one for me, because of all the rapes I had been through. So being intimate with my husband was not number one on my list especially with all that was going on in our marriage.
Our home was very bitter and cold so it was hard to create any of kind of intimacy between my husband and I. Intimacy for my husband and I was hard for our first year and half of our marriage, but I have been trying to work on ways to be more intimate with him.
There is one thing that I need to make very clear here and that is intimacy and sex are very much two different things. Now intimacy does help to create a better atmosphere that will lead up to sex.
There are things that a wife and husband can do with each other so that they both feel more of a closeness with each other. But if there’s any kind of tension in the home then being intimate with your husband is not going to be your number one thing to do on your list for you.
On the other hand husband’s will still want sex because they do not need intimacy to get them all aroused up. Because men are more visual so all they need is to look at you and they are ready to go.
But us (I) ladies we need to feel that closeness with our husbands. And ladies if you’re anything like me you will want to know that he cares about you, that he loves you and that he cherishes you and if you do not feel that he does, well then nothing will be cooking for the hubby tonight in the bedroom.
Men tend to fail to realize how important it is for us to us woman to feel that closeness with our husband’s. They just expect us to be like them all ready boiling and ready to go!
But for myself I know I am more like the soup that needs to simmer for a while before I am ready to jump into action with my husband! So what can we do ladies to help create more intimacy in our relationship with our husbands?
SO WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Question 1: Have you and your husband discussed your sex life recently? Are you both satisfied with the frequency of your sexual actives?
Yes we have both sat down and discuss or sex life and we are both happy with our sex life the way it is now.
Question 2: Have you discussed what both of you want from your sex life? Do you know how frequently your husband wants to engage in lovemaking?
My husband and I try our best to talk about what we want and need from each other. Oh boy! Do I ever know how much lovemaking he wants, too much if you ask me!
Question 3: What one thing would make a huge difference for your husband in the area of sex?
Me more being more affectionate towards him.
Question 4: What do you sense God wants you to know about this area?
That without intimacy between a husband and wife it could lead to some very disastrous consequences if not dealt with right away!
Nina Roesner ask that: “We pray that God helps you overcome any obstacles that stand in the way of physical intimacy for you and your spouse.” “ Challenge yourself to initiate, especially if prompted by the Holy Spirit!” God Bless To ALL…..
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Love Always One Of God’s Children 8/6/2013