The Respect Dare

Day 6: Random Acts

In Nina Roesner book she made statement that “as wives, we have a unique ability to impact and love those around us.” “The trouble is that we can often fall into the trap of feeling resentful if we do not receive appreciation for our efforts.” I’m sitting here trying to whack my brains as to where do I stand on this?

For the most part I do good about doing things for my husband without expecting anything back from him. But the Bible Verse does say do everything without complaining or arguing and there are many areas where I fall right flat on my face!

This is a tough one for me! How does one go about doing everything without complaining or arguing? There are many great Bible Verses that remind us the right attitude we should have as we are serving others such as: Matthew 7:12 “In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you, for this is the Law and the Prophets. Colossians 3:23 “Whatever you do, do it enthusiastically, as something done for the Lord and not for men.”

But nine times out of ten being the human beings that we are we don’t do as God has asked. We instead want to run with what we think we should or should not do, our feelings get a big say in how we treat others and then there are times where selfishness is knocking on the door to justified our attitude towards others.

I’m starting to feel like Romans 7: 14-20 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[c] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

But wait there is hope for us after all read on Romans 7:21-25 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

I thank God that He is here to help me get through this, because it is not easy to serve others without complaining and arguing. Boy do I got some work cut out for me in this area.

                                         SO WHAT ABOUT YOU? 

For today’s dare we are asked to keep continuing “to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, and to do one-act of kindness or a chore for your husband that you know is important to him.” Actively choose to have a positive attitude and do this chore without expecting him even to notice and without pointing out what you did for him.” Pray that God will reveal Himself to your spouse (and others) is by enabling you to love without expectation or resentment.” “Be sure to thank God for any progress or positive changes you have experienced spiritually or relationally.”  There also are some question she asked us to answer too…….

Question 1: What one act of kindness or chore can you do for your husband today?

Lord help me on this, but I’m going to try to not find anything to complain about and just do what my husband ask. 

Question 2: How will your expectations (regarding your husband response) be challenged when you do this? 

My stubbornness to want to things done my way is what going to challenge me and if my husband ask me to do something that out of the norm for me, we going to have problems. This where I’m going to need to zip it and just say yes my love to what he asking me to do. 

Question 3: Sometimes a Scripture verse will show us things about ourselves that we didn’t know before. What was illuminated for you today with regard to today’s verse, Philippians 2:14? 

That I do way to far much complaining and arguing then needs to be done. That I need to learn more self-restraint and let God do the work through me and through others. I need to let Him run the show and not I!

Question 4: Do you tend to state the facts, or do you communicate emotionally? What would be the outcome if you could communicate more factually in your relationship with your husband? 

There is no doubt in my mind that I am emotional communicator!  First I need to learn how to state facts, because all I known all my life is how to communicate with my emotions. Two once I learned that then I can start letting God do what He needs to do through the both of us, instead always having my emotions run the show. Three my husband would be more of happy man, because his wife wont be so over dramatic about everything.

Questions 5: Why does choosing a good attitude while serving not make you a doormat? 

Well ladies that is it for today’s dare and for myself this was an eye-opener and a cut through my heart. God has really reveal to me what I need to change. I pray that all you ladies out there are still holding on and pushing through these dares! God Bless To All…..

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